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Welcome to my thread on Love Languages, Truths, Myths, and Misconceptions.
This is based on reading like 5 principles: psychology, philosophy, anthropology, and lots of research too. Indulge & RT.
Welcome to my thread on Love Languages, Truths, Myths, and Misconceptions.
This is based on reading like 5 principles: psychology, philosophy, anthropology, and lots of research too. Indulge & RT.
First off, not all women love gifts, or money, well maybe they may NEED it, but not all of them LOVE it.
This might sound very unorthodox but chances are, and they're very high, that you're just broke, or at worse, a gold digger, not that their love language actually is gifts.
This might sound very unorthodox but chances are, and they're very high, that you're just broke, or at worse, a gold digger, not that their love language actually is gifts.
This explains why men call women materialistic, and why even after blowing all your money on a lady, she still dumps you anyway.
The vice versa is true too.
The vice versa is true too.
There are 5 generally known types of love languages, ceteris paribus:
1. Acts of service.
2. Words of affirmation.
3. Quality time.
4. Gifts.
5. Physical touch.
This is a random arrangement.
1. Acts of service.
2. Words of affirmation.
3. Quality time.
4. Gifts.
5. Physical touch.
This is a random arrangement.
Some men think their love language is physical touch when it's actually not.
You probably just love sex, and it's got nothing to do with your love language being physical touch or anything.
There's a whole science behind that, and why women don't initiate sex as often as men.
You probably just love sex, and it's got nothing to do with your love language being physical touch or anything.
There's a whole science behind that, and why women don't initiate sex as often as men.
1. Acts of service.
Saw a meme about how some lady was rainbows and unicorns over a guy who opened the door for her she couldn't get over it. She was saying how actors kiss each other for seasons without fall in love but that simple act got her in her feelings the whole week.
Saw a meme about how some lady was rainbows and unicorns over a guy who opened the door for her she couldn't get over it. She was saying how actors kiss each other for seasons without fall in love but that simple act got her in her feelings the whole week.
Well, that right there is an example of acts of service. People whose top love language happens to be this notice every little thing you do for them.
If such a person had an incomplete project and you came forth and completed it for him, they'd feel loved and appreciated.
If such a person had an incomplete project and you came forth and completed it for him, they'd feel loved and appreciated.
Or just as simple a gesture as opening a door for such a person, or preparing a simple meal for them, or just helping them out with any task they're doing. And yeah, it spans to things like ironing clothes, cleaning, helping out with the utensils, etc.
For such a person, they'd feel loved. And before feminists come throwing stones at me, I mean this in both ways. And at the end of this thread, I'll explain exceptions to this language and how plastic our brains can be.
A woman told a man to show her that he actually loved and really cared for her. You know what the man did? He took a lawnmower and went on to trim the grass.
A rich man with all the money he has was cheated on by his wife. Guess with whom? The gardener.
Think about it.
A rich man with all the money he has was cheated on by his wife. Guess with whom? The gardener.
Think about it.
It's a two-way traffic. Such people also show their love in the same exact way, just as the lawnmower guy in my previous update. They tend to be altruistic and most of them end being good leaders.
These love languages are not just for romance, they're actually expressed it normal day-to-day activities, socializing and making friends, normal platonic friendships.
So you may be boring the living hell out of your friend with a love language they don't dig.
So you may be boring the living hell out of your friend with a love language they don't dig.
2. Words of Affirmation.
I saw some video of a lady dressed up and she was dancing while her man was gassing her up real good. The caption was, "If your man doesn't gas you up like this, dump him. He doesn't love you."
Well, what if that's not his love language?
I saw some video of a lady dressed up and she was dancing while her man was gassing her up real good. The caption was, "If your man doesn't gas you up like this, dump him. He doesn't love you."
Well, what if that's not his love language?
This type of people generally love being told they're awesome. They appreciate such simple statements of how good they are, or what they did was, or what they own is, or how everything will be fine or okay in the end.
Their face brightens up every time they're affirmed.
Their face brightens up every time they're affirmed.
For those of us who have been through trauma and depression, one of the things that have kept us from suicide was the simple words of affirmation, appreciation about how awesome we are, how good whatever we did was. That's how important that specific love language can be.
3. Quality Time.
These people tend to just like to hang with their friends or partners, having conversations, doesn't have to be deep stuff, just basic communication, stories, etc.
They will come over to your place to just chill, with nothing specific to do or talk about,....
These people tend to just like to hang with their friends or partners, having conversations, doesn't have to be deep stuff, just basic communication, stories, etc.
They will come over to your place to just chill, with nothing specific to do or talk about,....
just bringing up random topics or a random conversation or debate, just to talk it over.
If they love you or feel your vibe, they'll always ask whether you're free, whether they can come over, or when they can see you next (this is with exceptions of those trying to get laid).
If they love you or feel your vibe, they'll always ask whether you're free, whether they can come over, or when they can see you next (this is with exceptions of those trying to get laid).
They are the ones who, in a r-ship, get hurt and feel unloved when their partner doesn't create time for them. They will feel this even if you buy them the Salvator Mundi, or tell them they're the most beautiful person on earth. All they need is time with you, alone.
Now those who don't vibe this type of language will need a very good, logical reason to come to your place, they don't just visit for the sake of visiting.
This also applies in the reverse, they will need you to have a very specific reason to come over to their place.
This also applies in the reverse, they will need you to have a very specific reason to come over to their place.
4. Gifts.
Now, this is where the problem is. I'll try to explain it as well as I can.
There's a lot of misconceptions around gifts and to clarify that, I'll simply tell you how to identify a gold digger or someone whose love language isn't gifts.
Now, this is where the problem is. I'll try to explain it as well as I can.
There's a lot of misconceptions around gifts and to clarify that, I'll simply tell you how to identify a gold digger or someone whose love language isn't gifts.
Before I carry on, not all women are gold diggers, some sure are, as are some men, and not all women love gifts, and I'll show you why and how.
The thin grey line between someone who liked the gift because it's their love language and someone who liked it because they were broke and needed it is this: the thought and the convenience of the gift.
People whose top love language is actually gifts will not thank you for the gift, but for the fact that you were thoughtful enough about them*. These people will appreciate even a simple 50/- pair of earrings. They don't appreciate the value, they appreciate the thought.
On the other end of the scale are people who are either broke and in need of the gift and will only appreciate it on how convenient the gift has been, or gold diggers.
These appreciate only the value, not the thought.
These appreciate only the value, not the thought.
I saw a tweet about how a lady asked a guy for 10K and he sent 100k, and turns out the lady was dreaming and she was praying to God for such a man. Or ladies who post about how their man sent them X sum of money and how he's the best.
Or people who consistently post "Send MPesa".
Or people who consistently post "Send MPesa".
