I once got into trouble for calling someone a MILF. Not from the person herself -- she was flattered -- but from other readers. There were nearly 100 complaints. I was told it was demeaning, objectiying, degrading to women. 1/ https://twitter.com/clairlemon/status/1381461144594915329

Someone told me that it triggered traumatic memories & was a kind of verbal rape. Lots of people begged me to change it to "cougar," even though cougar is an older woman who fancies younger men whereas MILF is an older woman fancied by younger men (much more flattering). 2/

Anyway, I was extremely surprised both because I aspire to be an honorary MILF & because the person I described as "my favourite MILF" was delighted by the designation. 3/