It's a month until Mother's Day and every year I get on here and gently threaten dudes whose partners are moms

If your partner became a mom for the first time in the last year, chances are they did not in any way have the intro to motherhood they expected or hoped.

You will not, under any circumstances, ask her 'ugh what are "we" gonna do for our moms'

Don't spend all morning in the kitchen splattering all surfaces and using all pans to make a baroque brunch that's mostly about making you feel good about yourself

She might cherish a special outing w her kids — she might want to fuck off to a spa and be left alone. You can figure this out using one old trick: asking her

Ask her for guidance by providing sets of options but don't make it her problem.

You can do it! Look at her pinterest! Look at what she likes on instagram (can you still do this) Be curious about what a perfect day might look like for this person. It's a good muscle to develop

And best of luck to my husband who is truly fucked since Mother's Day is also my birthday