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I attended a marriage ceremony of one of my childhood friends yesterday and what transpired later on that day had left me wondering if marriage nowadays is a business venture or otherwise.
In a typical Northern setting, the groom is expected to offset certain bills including...
In a typical Northern setting, the groom is expected to offset certain bills including...
but not limited to "kudin sallama" (a fee payed to friends of the bride). While I do not have any qualms with such monies paid to friends of the bride cux of its obvious uses, I was bewildered and baffled when we went to traditionally convey the bride to the family of the.....
groom, we were told that we needed to pay what they referred to as "kudin goggoni" (translating to a fee meant to be shared amongst the bride's female elders) in order to "RELEASE" the bride to us for conveyance. This sad aspects of the extravagant and unimportant financial...
implications of marriages in the North smacks of how marriages these days have morphed from a simple union of man and wife to an ever growing competitive show of wealth and an opportunity for most to make money by hook or crook. My point here is..CULTURE and the dictates...
of RELIGION may be mixed but should never be confused. The latter is more important than the former. The groom only marries the bride, not her entire extended family. We may soon wake up one day and hear of "kudin canza motocin kawayen amarya" 
. These "goggoni" (elderly...
. These "goggoni" (elderly...
ones from the bride's family) ought to be the ones to assume the advisory role of guiding the couples towards a successful marriage but no....that takes the back seat and the quest to quench their unflinching thirst for money drives the car.
