Talking to one of my lovely subs has made me aware of just how awful some "Doms" are.

Your kinks are not weird.
If you like pet play, foot worship, dressing up as the sixth Doctor, that's totally your choice to make and that is FINE!

Your limits are not unreasonable.
If you don't want to be spat on, choked, spanked, punished, ignored or called Mr Flibble, that's totally your choice to make and that is FINE!

If anyone tries to tell you that you are somehow "not a real <whatever>" or "not serious" or "timid" or "fake" or any other put-down, then they really aren't worth your time.

YOU get to choose what you do, and who you do it with.

And if you're someone who feels called out by any of this - good. I'd suggest you change your attitude, but you won't. It's your loss, because the people you gaslight will find someone who appreciates them. And trust me - that unlocks a whole world of delight you'll never enjoy