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LOVE ISN'T OWNERSHIP. THREAD
Dear @_fels1 AND @amerix @BravinYuri
1/15
Love isn’t ownership, but too often we confuse the two. I know it can sound like a nice analogy to use that dating is like test driving a car and marriage is like buying it, but that’s not how love should
Dear @_fels1 AND @amerix @BravinYuri
1/15
Love isn’t ownership, but too often we confuse the two. I know it can sound like a nice analogy to use that dating is like test driving a car and marriage is like buying it, but that’s not how love should
....work. Getting married isn’t like buying a car. Sure when you pick a car or a partner there are some similarities like you should know what features you want and don’t want, and you should stick to what you can afford. The big difference, however, is that when you buy a car
.. you don’t really look at yourself. You don’t really look at what you can offer the relationship. Ownership is more about what you are buying. It’s about the other side giving you what you want. It’s about the other side filling your needs. It’s about the other side making
you happy. There is no concern whether the car will be happy with you. How many people have purchased a standard car without having driven one and the first while is spent hopping and stalling the car as the new owner learns how to work the clutch? I’m pretty sure the car
would’ve preferred an owner who knew what he or she was doing. Similarly, I’m sure there are a lot of Honda Civics out there, if given the choice, would choose a gentle senior citizen owner who brakes cautiously and has no idea how to work the radio.
Instead, many Honda Civics are owned by young want-to-be race car drivers who drive recklessly through city streets playing music that sounds like a steady, on beat barrage of exploding bombs: (scared person) “Are we under attack?” (companion) “No, just our eardrums. Those kids
have destroyed theirs, so now they’re after ours.” On the positive side, I now know what a small earthquake feels like.
Real love isn’t what the other person can do for us. It’s about what we offer each other. It’s about offering patience, kindness, self control, faithfulness,
Real love isn’t what the other person can do for us. It’s about what we offer each other. It’s about offering patience, kindness, self control, faithfulness,
and forgiveness. Love is essentially about offering each other safety. In our hectic African society we need some place that lets us escape the tumultuous world around us. Marriage, in particular, is meant to offer us a place of safety; safety to be challenged, to take chances,
to be successful and to make mistakes. Ownership is about what the other gives us while love is about what we give to each other. When this is forgotten, relationships are doomed. It becomes about “You don’t…”, “You never…” and “You always…” We forget that it takes two
people to make a relationship work and two people to make the relationship fall apart. Too many people seem to get married in order to have someone to blame for everything that goes wrong in their life. Too many people seem to get married in order to have someone to boss around
and to unload all of their negative junk. But that isn’t love. Ownership is about getting what we want and trading in when we’re not happy, while love is about working together. We need to start to realize that love isn’t ownership. Besides, just like your partner has a few
habits and/or traits you can’t stand, he or she will have a list about you as well. Your partner needs you to treat him or her with love and not ownership just as you need him or her to do the same for you.
may you start to see what real love is about in a way that lifts your spirits and grows the relationships/marriages around you.
AVOID toxic hashtags like
#MasculinitySaturday
Avoid @_fels1 at all costs if you want your marriage to work. Thank You
#marriagesunday.
by Eng Makori
AVOID toxic hashtags like
#MasculinitySaturday
Avoid @_fels1 at all costs if you want your marriage to work. Thank You
#marriagesunday.
by Eng Makori
