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Can we talk a bit about how we communicate?
The goal of communication is the successful transfer of an idea. SUCCESFUL. That means the person understands what you're communicating.
It does NOT mean they agree. It means that they received what you sent, & your idea is grasped.
The goal of communication is the successful transfer of an idea. SUCCESFUL. That means the person understands what you're communicating.
It does NOT mean they agree. It means that they received what you sent, & your idea is grasped.
When someone responds in a way that you perceive as general lack of understanding your 1st thought should be to assess if you were understood & if there's a way to word something more effectively.
Your first action should not be to demean the other person as being dense.
Your first action should not be to demean the other person as being dense.
It doesn't mean you suck or they suck or anyone sucks, it just means more effort to COMMUNICATE is needed.
Being angry isn't necessary. Biting at someone who's trying to interact w/you is sheer arrogance imho. Misinterpreting someone doesn't make them a stupid jerk.
Being angry isn't necessary. Biting at someone who's trying to interact w/you is sheer arrogance imho. Misinterpreting someone doesn't make them a stupid jerk.
Treating them like a stupid jerk makes you one, tho.
Here's the crux. Some words in the English language have over 100 definitions. Your use of words will always differ from another's.
Also, our expectations shade how we perceive responses. A person who responds outside your..
Here's the crux. Some words in the English language have over 100 definitions. Your use of words will always differ from another's.
Also, our expectations shade how we perceive responses. A person who responds outside your..
...expectations, does not *mean* they didn't comprehend what you're saying. It could mean they don't agree. Or they dug on zig when you expected zag.
There's NO REASON to go in attack mode. Effort to promote mutual understanding. THAT'S communication. Ask questions. Offer info.
There's NO REASON to go in attack mode. Effort to promote mutual understanding. THAT'S communication. Ask questions. Offer info.
Otherwise, everything in your dialogue could be founded on a huge misunderstanding that's COMPLETELY your fault bc you limit your reaction to defensive combat rather than trying to achieve true communication.
It's understanding one another, not browbeating ppl until they agree.
It's understanding one another, not browbeating ppl until they agree.
It becomes obvious quickly when someone is about exchanging ideas vs when they just want your mental subservience.
It costs nothing to say "I see your point, I just disagree."
Nor will it harm you if that's how someone responds to you. If you can't accept people unless they-
It costs nothing to say "I see your point, I just disagree."
Nor will it harm you if that's how someone responds to you. If you can't accept people unless they-
Subscribe to your philosophy, you basically are only comfortable around people in whose eyes, mind & words you can see the reflection of yourself.
Personally, I love how different we all are. You're allowed to disagree with me w/out a battle.
I only ask for the same courtesy.
Personally, I love how different we all are. You're allowed to disagree with me w/out a battle.
I only ask for the same courtesy.
