children unfortunately get abused at sleepovers all the time, especially black girls who are literally sexualized from birth. older siblings, father figures. it could be any of them. not only that, but there are plentiful stories of black kids, teens, AND adults who don’t survive

sleepovers. white families who intend to harm will intentionally create trust so that people can leave their children vulnerable in their hands. it’s manipulation and it’s calculated. you don’t understand bc of white privilege, bc that isn’t the reality we grew up knowing.

white people might be cautious of abuse, but the chances of us going to a white friend’s sleepover and being murdered is not as great as that of a black child or teen or adult. you don’t understand bc we never had to fear those situations bc they’re targeted for bipoc.

i was very rarely allowed at sleepovers as a child and i don’t think i missed out on my whole childhood. i did plenty of things with my friends during day time hours under light supervision and as i got older we were sometimes unsupervised. i def did my fair share of sneaky shit

too but the point is my mom never just let me run around carelessly bc i “deserved time away.” you can allow your children freedom while still keeping them protected. and you can create a home your kids don’t need a break from.