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So this is something I've considered saying for a while.
So this is something I've considered saying for a while.
Continuing my pursuit of making social media more reflective of my “real life”, and in the interest of transparency and my hope for highlighting aspects of both diversity and inclusivity I wanted to say some things.
I am pansexual. Meaning I am not limited in my attraction to people with regard to biological sex, or gender.
In addition, I have a non-traditional marriage. This is not a new thing.
In addition, I have a non-traditional marriage. This is not a new thing.
There is no real label for what we are, but myspouse and I love and respect each other deeply, and our relationship is focused on ensuring that both of our needs and desires are met. At times this has looked like polyamory and at times it has been options to explore.
But the basic idea is that I am not constrained (my words) by monogamy nor patriarchal rules about what marriage should be or look like. Social media doesn’t have a good way to label this (most people/platforms don't).
But it is important to me for folks to know where I stand with these things, since I find value in being my authentic self. There are more layers to this but that is the basic idea.
Growing up in the religious, conservative south, there was a lot of pressure to conform and to repress myself. The idea that women were the cause of original sin and that my sexuality was BAD was extremely prevalent.
It did a lot of damage that took a long time to undo. I absolutely don't want to get into a religious discussion here or to be witnessed to. I am spiritual in my own way and a secular humanist.
But I refuse to semi-hide these parts of myself anymore. I think it’s unhealthy. And I suspect there are a lot of others that might feel the same way.
****To be clear, this is NOT an advertisement or a want ad. It's about opening minds and creating safe space for others.*******
As always, make sure whatever you do, you have clear and continuous consent.
As always, make sure whatever you do, you have clear and continuous consent.
