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I spent two hours yesterday disabusing my 22 year old son of the notion of "alpha male."
It was EXHAUSTING but I& #39;m pretty sure I got through to him.
#ParentingNeverStops
It was EXHAUSTING but I& #39;m pretty sure I got through to him.
#ParentingNeverStops
This "alpha male" BS is being peddled on YouTube & in podcasts as self help.
When my boy said "red pill/blue pill" I about lost my damn mind.
When my boy said "red pill/blue pill" I about lost my damn mind.
At one point I said to him, "So I& #39;m am ex army Ranger and a war vet. Would you consider me an alpha male?"
Him: Of course!
Me: Well I don& #39;t.
Him: What!?! Why?
Me: Because that shit doesn& #39;t exist. Those assholes are weak minded men. Stop listening to them or you& #39;ll die alone.
Him: Of course!
Me: Well I don& #39;t.
Him: What!?! Why?
Me: Because that shit doesn& #39;t exist. Those assholes are weak minded men. Stop listening to them or you& #39;ll die alone.
At one point he starts talking about how crying is only for "beta males."
After explaining, then showing him scientific evidence of the actual measurable physical & psychological benefits of a good cry...
After explaining, then showing him scientific evidence of the actual measurable physical & psychological benefits of a good cry...
...and telling him I cried like a baby when he was born, when I see old pics of him, when I think about how I felt when his mother kidnapped he & his brother as toddlers I think things started to make sense to him.
It& #39;s POWERFUL when a young man to sees or hears his father cry.
It& #39;s POWERFUL when a young man to sees or hears his father cry.
At one point, to show him he& #39;s just a curious 22 year old trying to find his way and that there& #39;s still time for him to come to better conclusions about being human I told him some of the ridiculous stuff I believed when I was 22.
I find vulnerability can be shown in many ways.
I find vulnerability can be shown in many ways.
Vulnerability is one of the things I told him makes him stronger.
"We can& #39;t learn about ourselves unless we open ourselves up to pain son, that& #39;s just life. Your "alpha male tutor" is too weak inside to know that."
That hit him like a rock on the head.
"We can& #39;t learn about ourselves unless we open ourselves up to pain son, that& #39;s just life. Your "alpha male tutor" is too weak inside to know that."
That hit him like a rock on the head.
None of this makes me a hero y& #39;all, I& #39;m just figuring out parenting by the seat of my pants like the rest of us do.
I believe most people would& #39;ve done the same had they found their offspring starting to walk such a bad path.
#AllYouNeedIsLove
I believe most people would& #39;ve done the same had they found their offspring starting to walk such a bad path.
#AllYouNeedIsLove
