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“So what I’m hearing you say is that the dating equivalent of ‘dress for the job you want’ is ‘dress for the dick of your dreams’?”
“I mean, if you’re fishing for dick, sure. But keep in mind that it’s not in short supply.” She picked up a whiteboard marker and scrawled out a sentence. If you don’t know what you want, you shouldn’t be dating.
“Now, that advice may sound harsh. I’m sure some of you are saying to yourselves, ‘Isn’t dating how I figure out what I like?’ and you’re right. It is. But your efforts will go further faster if you first do the work of asking yourself, and being honest about...
what you’re prepared to give and receive in a relationship with another person.”
“We all want and need different things. Despite what the Hallmark Channel might tell you, not everyone’s happily-ever-after involves settling down in a small town. We don’t all want commitment...
“We all want and need different things. Despite what the Hallmark Channel might tell you, not everyone’s happily-ever-after involves settling down in a small town. We don’t all want commitment...
We don’t all want sex. And we certainly don’t always want them in the same serving sizes. That’s okay. Good, even. There aren’t wrong answers to the question ‘What are you looking for?’ But there are infinite lies and only one truth.”
“You have to know your own tendencies. What kind of traps do you tend to fall into, not just romantically, but in any relationship?”
“Unfortunately, knowing your weaknesses doesn’t make you immune.”
“Unfortunately, knowing your weaknesses doesn’t make you immune.”
“...but for tonight, I want you to focus on yourself. I want you to answer two questions. What kind of relationship do you really want? And how are you sabotaging yourself from getting it?”
And now lesson 2
“Today we’re going to talk about first dates, specifically, we’re going to talk about how you should stop viewing them like job interviews—hiding your weaknesses and overplaying your strengths—and start treating them like games of chicken.”
“Today we’re going to talk about first dates, specifically, we’re going to talk about how you should stop viewing them like job interviews—hiding your weaknesses and overplaying your strengths—and start treating them like games of chicken.”
“Look, your time is valuable, and presumably so is the other person’s, so just cut to the chase. Tell him you’re high maintenance and let him rise to the occasion. Fill her in on your crippling self-loathing, but (….) only if you’re taking steps to address it.”
“What if you’re broke?”
“Definitely tell your date that you’re broke. They’re going to find out sooner or later. Do you have any idea how much time and energy it takes to fake being rich?”
“What if you’re a virgin?”
“Definitely tell your date that you’re broke. They’re going to find out sooner or later. Do you have any idea how much time and energy it takes to fake being rich?”
“What if you’re a virgin?”
“You don’t have to tell someone your sexual history on a first date, or ever, if you don’t want to. That’s your business. In my experience, having sex—even lots of sex—doesn’t make anyone a better or more qualified partner, and a person who deserves you will know that.”
