Nigerian Women, Hypocrisy & their Faux-Reality of Age Appropriateness on Marriage: the Pseudo-Reality of Nigeria’s Poor Socio-Economic System.

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“When 34 year old men pick women in their 20s, they know EXACTLY what they are doing,” a lady said.

This somehow removes the woman’s choice from the equation, right?

The claim of the single-at-30 women is that: ‘Younger men are immature. Older men are predators.’

While the former claim is made in their mid-twenties, the latter is made when they happen to be single in their early 30s. But that’s hypocrisy from the pit of hell.

Women only complain about this when they’re past their 20s & they care to be married but are not married already.

Some of them have noticed decline in credible suitors after 30; or not, but have no time to drag a long spell of chase.

Are they also not the lots who go “Secure the bag queen,” when the man in question is a man old enough to be a young bride’s father or grandfather, but RICH?

Well, isn’t it women who determine the existence or not of a relationship in the beginning? That means they know what they want or don’t want when they see it.

However, they may be blinded by illusions, self-created fantasies or false first impressions to their later cup of tea.

Matter-of-factly, the major cause of this mendacious fallacy is not the agenda some single and frustrated women in their early 30s try to push. It is the poor socio-economic reality of Nigeria cum the women’s natural urge for HYPERGAMY.

Generally, not stereotypically, Nigerian men and women in their early to mid 20s are not financially stable to be responsible for a family.

Talk of many, if not most, who are even just fresh off NYSC then to the search for a job; most who end up being underemployed...

in the first few years (say 3-6 years after). It’s usually different in the developed countries (US, UK, Switzerland etc) because of the robust economies & opportunities that abound there.

The average Nigerian woman sees herself as a support system hence less pressure to strive.

And generally, success is a lifestyle choice for women. Success is a do or die affair for men.

A woman who fails or is failing in school or career can just give up and marry; it can never be a man for (1.) no woman can ever accommodate such (2.) no man’s ego can take it.

Regardless, the woman has a utopian idea of when she wants to be married: 25, 26. Common sense will tell anyone that middle-class Nigerian youths generally, not stereotypically, at 25/26 cannot deal with marriage financially; and everyone knows it.

30s average Nigerian men are usually better off financially than 20s because of the years struggle has accumulated.

So it’s asinine for anyone to push the spurious claim that “When 34 year old men pick women in their 20s, they know EXACTLY what they are doing.”

It is even more asinine if it comes from some of whom will never know what it’s like to pay a house rent, because some of them will ‘graduate’ from their father’s house to their husband’s.

It is a matter of culture but one which the same set of women do not despise.

It removes or reduces the burden of being at a big disadvantage of biological clock as Nigerian (and developing countries) dysfunctional economy can make sure of.

Are these women not the same who get married immediately after University? – Some during NYSC.

And who do they get married to? 30+ men who graduated 5, 6, 7, 8 years before.

20s women, generally not stereotypically, prefer to go with men in their early 30s as more a result of HYPERGAMY & promise of a higher social status than maturity or high tolerance for their excesses.

At the same time, they ignore guys their age. Then those who find themselves single in their early 30s for whatever reason develop victim complex.

“When women in their 20s pick 34 year old men, they know EXACTLY what they are doing,” a man can then say.

This is because, like earlier said, it is the woman, not the man who determines the existence of a romantic relationship in the beginning.

In conclusion, natural law of attraction and selection must take place. As men want beauty, freshness and fertility, women want stability, strength and success. Double coincidence of needs causes both parties to mutually strike a good match.