I had a horrible year+ long issue with one of the members of our server about this bullshit. Like honestly just fuck off and find a different fandom if you can't stand the gay ships. https://twitter.com/armormodechang/status/1380251878106218501

i've always wanted to vent about this but i was afraid he or someone from the server would see it but like, whatever. he caused enough grief and im pretty sure everyone who's in the server and follows me knows this by now

when he first joined, one of the first things he said was that he didnt like renmerry. back then i had much more patience, but nowadays, coming from a cis straight white guy, this would set off some alarm bells.

i've joked to asa in other contexts that disliking renmerry is like half way to homophobia LOL. kinda the way i'd shifty-eyes at someone for not liking a gay, healthy canon ship in anything else.

anyway, this clown ended up becoming a pretty big part of the group since he joined early in and interacted a lot... at first we thought his self-centeredness was funny and endearing, kinda like a chuuni. but i guess this got to his head at some point.

one day he decided that reimu was his waifu, and he would not shut up about it. he'd also started being rather vocal about his distaste for reimari. he'd use an emote we had of ringo with her :T face a lot when he didn't care for something, so

you can imagine how fucking annoying it got to see ringo's disapproving look every single time someone posted yuri art. we told him to stop, but he'd always find another way to show his disapproval without outright saying it. lots of plausible deniability.

we gave him so many chances, i feel like such an idiot in hindsight. spent so much time trying to help him with personal issues and shit... just goes to show you can't fix homophobia. i really should've just kicked his ass earlier in.

one of my favorite thing was one time he threw a tantrum because asa and i were uploading cute pictures of ships we liked on mudae, a discord gacha, for random characters we collected. like we'd specifically collect yuri couples we liked of different series, like kaban and serval

or utena and anthy, and then replace their pictures with shippy ones. and he... despite not even knowing any of these characters, took issue with that. he blamed his discomfort on being lonely, so we let it slide. but even after getting a gf he still acted this way so.. hm.

but of course, things always seem simpler in hindsight, and this thread is a gross simplification of everything that went down with him. at the least i can say that i definitely learned a lot from him and how to deal with people like him. it definitely helped me grow as a mod.

and since then i've even had someone say they love how lgbt+ friendly the server feels which made me really happy and made me feel like the work im doing isn't for nothing