its a day ending with a y which means its time for the rest of my polycule to start picking fights on twitter

i always feel the urge to apologize for the actions of my loved ones

i don't think it's a healthy urge, in general, so i think i do a pretty good job of avoiding it

i worry about how it reflects on me, but i think that's irrational. it's not my responsibility to control my partners and i don't need the respect of anyone who thinks it is

the path of controlling their communications so that they please me is a dangerous road indeed

only in the most extreme of circumstances am i willing to judge others based on the actions of their loved ones, so i think it's fair of me to expect the same from others.

i think i bear some responsibility, but i think virtually all of my duties regarding them ought to be done in private. it would be selfish of me to make a scene purely to relieve my own insecurities.

of course, the fact that i'm commenting on this at all is a compromise between my duty and my fear of disapproval. i could make up all sorts of rationalizations about why this thread is Virtuous but in reality my only defense is that my feelings matter; a little selfishness is ok