what people don't seem to understand about ADHD is that certain things aren't just 'boring' for us - they can be borderline painful. the mental effort it takes me just to get ready for the day fills me with dread because there are so many steps and it's so overwhelming

it's not that we don't want to get ready for the day, we do - our brains just don't work in quite the same way so Every Single Thing takes So Much more planning. and often i have to PLAN to plan. existing can feel so much more complicated when you're not neurotypical.

and that's on an average day, if i'm already overwhelmed/emotional/sick, it's harder and i just can't see any benefit to doing anything because i won't get the dopamine my brain needs for ages after - it's just not worth it to my already foggy, confused, overwhelmed brain.

we are more likely to give up because ADHD doesn't do well with delayed gratification - it's so much easier for us to just stay in bed on our phones playing stupid little games without having to go through all the steps to get up and get ready and live actual life

people who don't have ADHD don't have this problem because their brains don't need the instant gratification that ADHD brains are constantly seeking out. if we can't see the rewards of something instantly - it feel impossible to do it, because the eventual payoff isn't worth it.

anyway that's enough rambling for me, i'm going to have to get up and face the day now because if i stay in bed any longer i *will* pee myself. but that's another example - the effort to go to the bathroom to pee just isn't worth it until a risk is involved to make it exciting.

NTs responding like "this isn't adhd, everyone likes instant gratification" uhh yea ik, my point is that people with ADHD are WAY less likely to succeed at things that don't provide instant gratification. there's a character limit y'all pls use some common sense xx

and neurotypicals think WE are the ones w the communication deficits u cannot make this shit up

anyway thanks so much to everyone else for all the love on this :)