phrases you should never say to a bisexual person, a necessary thread ;

"You're just afraid to come out as gay/lesbian."

No, a bisexual person is attracted to two or more genders, they aren't straight, they aren't gay, we are bisexual, stop invalidating who we are.

“You are just confused, you don't know what you are yet.”

As a person who already heard this, it's really disrespectful. Bisexuality is NOT confusion, we know exactly what we like/want.

“Does this mean you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend?"

Bisexuals are attracted to more than one gender but that doesn't mean they want a poly or an open relationship. There are people who are polyamorous but please don't just assume it just because a person is bisexual.

"Maybe you'll realize what you are soon."

Many people think bisexuals are just "confused between being straight and being gay", no. Bisexual people are well aware of who they are, stop assuming we are confused.

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"So you're into threesomes."

Being bisexual doesn't mean they are automatically into threesomes, homosexuals can also have threesomes, and also straight people can work to set up a threesome by setting rules.

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Just like homosexuals and straights may be into threesomes, bisexuals may not.

"Do you prefer men or women?"

Bisexuals are attracted to two or more genders, and they could have a preference or not. Some may not find it offensive but others may be uncomfortable with the question, but just in case, don't ask it at all.

"You're just going through a phrase."

This is similar to say that we are confused. It isn't a phase, it isn't confusion. It's WHO WE ARE, stop invalidating us.

"You don't look gay/lesbian."

First... They are not gay or lesbian, they are bisexual and second.. "you don't look..." society built up the stereotype of a gay man is feminine and a lesbian woman has a masculine style, which is simply wrong.

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We are all entitled to be who we want to be, dress, and act like we want without having to have people labeling our sexuality depending on how we look.

"If you also like men stick to a straight relationship."

Don't demand a bisexual to mold themselves to the social standards and live the life of a "normal" straight person just to be accepted.

"Being bisexual is the new trend."

Being bisexual isn't a trend, coming out as bisexual is very hard as well and we face a lot of preconceptions as well. Biphobia EXISTS.

"I don't date bisexuals because I don't want to get cheated on."

This is one that makes me boil, just because a person is bisexual doesn't automatically mean that they are cheaters, cheating can happen in any type of relationship, it has nothing to do with sexuality

A bisexual remains bisexual regardless of who they date, they won't become straight by dating someone of the opposite gender and they won't become homosexuals just by dating someone from the same gender, they remain bisexual.

"You just want attention. / Attention seekers."

Bisexuals don't look for attention and this is a very harmful thing to say.
Bisexuals, just like any other human being, are looking for LOVE, not attention from everyone.

Remember that you are loved and valid and you deserve to be appreciated.
You are beautiful regardless of your gender identity, sexuality, skin color, religion, etc.
You are important and you deserve to be loved.

I also want to say that my dms are opened in case you need to talk, I'll listen to you and do my best to advise you or just simply support you!