One week from today I am finally getting my tubes tied. Because I don't want children and I never have and I never will. This has been very hard for a lot of people to understand. Here are some conversations I've had the displeasure of having over the years (a thread).

Man I was dating: You'll change your mind when you meet the right guy.
Me: The right partner for me will also not want to have children.
Man: ...... (brain implodes, dies)

Me, a few years ago: I'm interested in getting my tubes tied.
Doctor: If you don't already have children, you won't be able to find a surgeon who will do the procedure until you're 35.
Me: Why?
Doctor: idk lol here's sum birth controlz

A different man I was dating: You'll change your mind when you're older.
Me: I don't think so. I haven't changed my mind about this in the past 20 years.
Man: Your biological clock will kick in.
Me: (kicks his dick in)

Doctor about to insert a birth control implant in my arm: This lasts for three years. Are you sure you won't decide you want children in the mean time?
Me, 28 at the time: I never want to have children.
Doctor: But you're 28. Prime time to have babies.
Me: Fuck. you. so. much.

Me: I have no sex drive and I think it's a side effect of this birth control.
Doctor (a different one): Do you have a partner?
Me: No.
Doctor: Then how do you know you don't have a sex drive?
Me: (explains sexuality to a doctor)

Nurse at office of the gynecologist who is performing this surgery on me: You want a tubal ligation? How many children do you have?
Me: None.
Nurse (confused): You... just... don't want children??
Me: Correct.
(continued)

Nurse (even more confused): I mean... kids are a lot of work.
Me: Yes, that is one of about a hundred reasons I don't want them.
Nurse: (passes out from confusion)

Me: I don't want children.
Many people: But you'd make such a great mom!
Me: A person who does not want children would actually not make a great parent.
People: BEEP BOOP DOES NOT COMPUTE

Anyway, maybe try listening to and believing people when they say they don't want to have children??

Update: as I was being prepped for surgery today, three different hospital staff asked how many kids I have, and when I replied "none," they couldn't wrap their head about the concept of wanting to be sterilized without already having children.

One nurse asked "what is it with your generation??"

I said "...we know what we want and we don't automatically succumb to the pressures of this shitty patriarchal society???" jk I didn't say that with my mouth but I said it with my EYES