This is true, and white women are tasked with sensing that “real talk” might be on the horizon, and “smoothing things over” to keep it from happening. Many of us have internalized the notion that we are responsible for other people arguing to the point that ... https://twitter.com/polotek/status/1353902811868618758">https://twitter.com/polotek/s...

we cry when we’re unable to keep the peace. It’s out of a genuine and completely misplaced sense of failure, but it also serves the purpose of redirecting peoples’ from whatever they were “fighting” about.

This is also known as “white women’s tears”. We need to stop it.

Contrary to what we may have been told, it is not our job to handle other people’s feelings for them.

White women need to step back and let other people have emotions. There will be pushback from those who have come to expect us to fix their feelings, but they need to GTFOI.

Wow, thank you for engaging! I’m wading through the responses, and I wanted to boost this comment thread bc it’s really important.

It’s very easy for us to blame “male anger” for our peacekeeping reflexes, BUT, that ain’t the whole story. https://twitter.com/ted_ra/status/1354103628336914433?s=20">https://twitter.com/ted_ra/st...

Also, shoutout to my fellow neurodivergent women/femme presenting folks who’ve been tasked with this by our culture, and told we’re broken when we fail.

We aren’t the ones broken here.