Here's my thread on my experience as a greyro person, please consider giving this a read and seeing if you relate to it a lot! Also please RT so more people can see!

Disclaimer: I'm just one person, it's not gonna be like this for every greyro person

First, here's a basic rundown. Being greyro is experiencing little to no romantic attraction, or a fluctuating degree of romantic atrraction. Romantic attraction is like that feeling of butterflies in your stomach, and the rush of emotions, nervousness and excitement, that you-

-get around someone you are romantically attracted to or have a crush on. Importantly, this isn't the same thing as love.

Let me say that again. Romantic attraction isn't the same thing as love. You can have either one without the other. For alloromantic people, crushes often-

-fade, even if they actually date the person they crushed on. But what's left is this enduring sense of love. Greyro people feel that love too. So without further ado, here's my experience of things like love and crushes as a greyro person.

For me, there is no clear boundary for the love I feel for friends and family and the love I feel for partners. The type of relationship is different, the way I express my love is different, but the underlying feeling isn't. H

However, there are different degrees of love. One of them is an extremely deep emotional connection. It feels like wanting to be with someone forever. Being inseparable from them. Them and me against the world. This isn't exclusive to partners, but I usually date the people I-

-feel this way for, because a romantic relationship allows the level of intimacy and affection I want with these people. Dating someone I have this deep, loving bond with tells my brain that I am together with that person in a truly meaningful way. I could have the same kind of-

-deep bond with a friend, but a normal friendship as defined by society doesn't allow for the kind of intimacy I would want, so I seek out a romantic relationship. QPRs work too, but to me they feel pretty much the same, because my love doesn't come alongside romantic attraction.

The other degree of love is a less deep one, but still wonderful. It's the feeling of enjoying someone, wanting to be affectionate in some way with them, wanting to spend time with them. I feel this way for fairly close friends, some partners, and some family members.

These relationships have the potential to evolve into deep bonds, but they don't need to for me to be satisfied with them. I still love those people, and even if I don't feel inseparable from them, they still make me happy. I'm often content just being friends with these people,-

-but I also enjoy dating some of them. For me, I want to kiss and cuddle people at this stage of love (except family members, not because it's a different kind of love, it would just be extremely awkward). But I'm often just as happy being affectionate friends as being partners.

One of the things that kept me from realizing I was greyro is that I still had "crushes." But what I now realize is that my "crushes" are different from romantic attraction. Romantic crushes are the whole butterflies in your stomach, rush of emotion thing I described earlier.

But my crushes are more like, "I love this person and want to express more affection for them than my current relationship with them allows." It's not that I want a romantic relationship because I'm romantically attracted to them, it's that I want a closer relatonship with them,-

-one that allows me to express affection in ways that many people reserve for only romantic partners. Being in a romantic relationship also makes me feel secure with them, like I can say "I am together with this person." But here's the thing: I feel just as content with-

-non-romantic relationships, as long as they offer that kind of security and allow for the same level of affection. So when I say I have a crush on someone, what that actually means is I want a closer relationship with them, be it romantic or otherwise.

That's about all I have for now, but if you wanna share your own experience I'll add it to the thread, and if you have any questions please feel free to ask! My DMs are also open if you're questioning!