In 2011 @ my first tech job:
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙅🏽‍♀️" title="Frau gestikuliert „Nicht OK“ (mittlerer Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Frau gestikuliert „Nicht OK“ (mittlerer Hautton)"> I was afraid to seize opportunities
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😬" title="Grimasse schneidendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Grimasse schneidendes Gesicht"> I was afraid to speak my mind

In 2021:
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🥳" title="Partying face" aria-label="Emoji: Partying face"> I was headhunted to be a VP @Brandwatch
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🏆" title="Trophäe" aria-label="Emoji: Trophäe"> I was voted #13th most influential woman in UK tech @ComputerWeekly

So, how did I grow my self-confidence?

*A THREAD*
I actively removed negative people from my life.

When you& #39;re already struggling to be your own #1 fan, having people around you that encourage judgement & criticism won& #39;t help.

Be cruel (to them) to be kind (to yourself).
I leaned into my strengths. You can develop your strongest skills to become exceptional in your domain.

When you& #39;re exceptional, you get results.

When you get results, you build a track record.

Believe in your track record - believe in yourself.
I learned to say no.

I learned that not every opportunity or ask will serve my goals & priorities.

I learned that as a woman in patriarchy, and as a WOC in a mostly white industry, I had succumbed to the & #39;disease to please& #39; as a survival tactic.

"No" became my friend.
I found my people.

I found people who shared my values, my ambitions & my insecurities.

Some I& #39;m grateful to call friends, others I& #39;ve only met through the content they create.

Their voices have elevated me during my lowest lows. Their gems of wisdom created light in darkness.
I learned to stop fearing failure & enjoy taking risks.

Fear of failure makes us procrastinate. It stops us from making moves that take us closer to our purpose.

It& #39;s a comfort blanket I grew out of.

Some risks paid off. Some risks hurt.

ALL of them were valuable lessons.
I learned to practice gratitude. This includes gratitude for myself & all my feelings & flaws.

The act of practicing gratitude has taught me how to extend the compassion I give to friends & family to the most important person in my life: ME.
I learned my value & how to fight for it.

I& #39;ve learned how to assess the value of my time & create boundaries with collaborators

I know my worth & I know that I am worthy. Not just worthy of the big bucks but also of respect & appreciation.

Hope these tips help- GOOD LUCK! https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💜" title="Violettes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Violettes Herz">
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