how cyber bullying and trolls had an impact on former little mix member jesy nelson: an educational thread

jesy nelson was seen on big screens for the first time when she appeared on x factor season eight in 2011. she failed solo auditions but kelly rowland decided to put her in a group with three others girls who became rythmix then little mix

since the show started she was constantly compared to her bandmates and it came to a point where people didn’t care about her talent anymore but her body. they did a cover of ‘beautiful' by christina aguilera to address their pov on that matter

tw // death threats

after a tough competition they became the first group to ever win x factor at that time. it was a joyful moment but it got cut short by haters who decided to send her nasty comments. she wasn’t aware but that was the beginning of her nightmare

before their first single release, the girls had individual twitter accounts. due to haters who attacked each members for personal reasons, jesy’s appearance was the center of their attention. again. their personal accounts got deleted and they decided to use one main account

time passed and lm gained exposure. still one thing obsessed jesy: her appearance. she started to believe words thrown at her and lost weight. one night after performing their new single "move" for the first time, she was excited to receive praise. but it happened differently

she realized that everything she was doing to please people would always be wrongly perceived. people attacked her body when she debuted so she lost weight, but people kept harassing her. what do they want from her?

progressively she became silent. she lost confidence and didn’t want to go to work anymore, cancelled many tv appearances: these bullies took away her passion for music

tw // suicide

a pain grew in her and she just wanted it to go away. she felt like being constantly stabbed in the heart and didn’t enjoy anything at all. she wanted to disappear for good: so she attempted suicide. thank lord her bf at that time came and called the ambulance

jesy wasn’t targeted by haters and trolls only, even public medias figures and some of her so called fans took part in this hate train, attacking every of her choices (surroundings, stage outfits or even vocals)

it became hard for her family and close friends, but also for her bandmates. they were worried. whatever they said to lift her up jesy felt like she was the complete opposite. it came to a point she pretended to feel amazing while she was mentally struggling

that online hate was part of her now: it affected her real life. she came to a point she hated the old jesy, more because people didn’t like that one. she couldn’t see her old pictures, she didn’t want to go back to that painful time of her life

she went to therapy and gained her confidence back slowly. she found her true happiness again. however recently, before the end of the year she took a break from the group for health reasons and months later she decided to leave little mix

jesy is a human being like us. not because she is famous that it’ll be different for her to handle hate. being in little mix was her dream, and she had to let go of it. we wish her the best even we’re sad

i don’t assume that cyber bullying is fully responsible of her departure, but we all know it has a major part in it. jesy felt not enough for years. i’m happy that she decided to take care of herself, but i’m also frustrated because she was happy until social network happened

few hours after the announcement that’s how people talked about jesy...imagine how uncomfortable she felt for being labeled as a meme when she’s an actual artist. i’m aware that many don’t know that this 'joke?' made her feel this way but doesn’t change that it’s disrespectful

finally it’s insensitive to send hate and camp behind the joke argument, or replying "they won’t see this" or "i’m defending my fave(s)". the real danger is that you can’t measure the effects of your words, how it can affect people, their families, friends, and even their fans

i tried to summarize everything but for those who want to watch the full documentary, here it is. i hope this thread will get to the right people https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p07lsr4d/jesy-nelson-odd-one-out

tw // suicide

here we are talking about jesy who’s fine now, but she is not the only person that got trolled. many have ended theirselves or are hurting themselves offline after you attacked them but you don’t care cause you don’t see what your words did to them

maybe you don’t care and keep trolling online,maybe you’re strong enough to handle hate. but you don’t know about the person you’re bullying. think about your acts on social medias and don’t do to others what you don’t want people to do to you or to the people you love/care about

finally you can state your opinion, you can disagree on something. but not everything has to be shared when it can be misinterpreted, when it can lead to wars, when it can hurt people. learn the difference between calling out and sending dts. just be respectful