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Something I don't understand about people is why they don't ask questions about your life/experiences/desires when they're trying to hit on you/impress you. Like after 200 lines of witty but superficial conversation where do you think it's going to go?
One of my most interesting dates was when the person I was with made me talk about the 4 most important turning points of my life. He then spoke about the same in his life. By the end of the date, we knew a lot more about each other than our fave TV show and music genre.
You can't have a relationship without vulnerability. Please go beyond small talk sometime. I don't mean start talking about childhood trauma on the first date. But talk about things that you are passionate about, things that brought you here, things that make you who you are.
And for the love of God, ask questions! It's the most flattering thing that someone is interested in your life (beyond your figure and your beautiful eyes and whatnot) and in your opinions/ideas/history. Best way to get to know a person is to ask follow up questions.
Every conversation with a potential date becomes absolute rubbish after 3 iterations because (in my experience as a cis het woman) men hardly ask questions. They want to impress you with their wit and charm but forget that for any depth or connection, you need vulnerability.
For me, the MOST annoying thing is being told I am pretty 32 times in a conversation, after which it becomes like oh your nose, oh your eyes, oh your lips...dude we're not living in Aafreen Aafreen music video calm the fuck down
Like at least be creative with your compliments. Or just stop after saying it once. Point noted. Abhi kuch meaningful baat karen?
