i need to say, very gently: spending years reading and internalizing the framing of sexuality presented by this kind of acecourse really messed with my head as a lesbian. no single ace headcanon threatens me, but i would push back on the idea that there's no potential for damage https://twitter.com/xieliansbuns/status/1331653968095817728

there's no one true theory of sex and desire that fits every queer identity. i feel definitive friction between my needs and the needs of the ace spectrum in this arena.

it's okay if this isn't a resolvable issue. needs can be in conflict without one party being the bad guy. however, i've built up some resentment over time hearing repeatedly that the framework as presented in this thread is completely benign and to say otherwise is to be aphobic