I’m gonna write my thoughts and I hope they are considered like that and I’m not attacked for them please I’m tagging this with #DoğduğunEvKaderindir tag so if you are not interest you can silence it. I open the thread

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You see some people want Zeyno to leave and are very angry at the possibility of she going back to Mehdi, other people are saying that he can change so she can forgive him and be back to him. And I agree with both. I believe in people above all, that’s +

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why I’ve been studying for so many years psychology, I believe in people and their possibility to redeem themselves. A person that wants to change should be given the chance, they were also people who grew under wounds that turned them to how they are now+

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HOWEVER, for a minute we have to stop and look at the real ones who are being directly impacted from this dizi. We all know Turkish people are fighting a daily battle for their women, there’s a high rate of femicides and violence against women in their +

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country, and we often see and share their pain when a girl shows up dead and justice does nothing for her or her family. If Zeyno were to forgive Mehdi what would the message to that people be? “Be patient that the one who hits you +

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(wether it’s physical or psychological) will change” ? I believe Mehdi is redeemable but more than my love for redemption or more than my love for the character I want to understand how Turkish people (or anyone else who experiences similar circumstances)+

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would feel like. What do they need more at this moment of time, when so many women at this very second you are reading this are being abused by their husbands or partner? Television has immense power to influence people’s mind and it helps to consolidate+

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cultural ways. So what should tv be saying now?: perhaps something like “Stand up! Don’t let yourself be beaten, don’t endure the pain, you don’t deserve it and men are not entitled to hit you neither with fists nor with words!+

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Don’t be Sakines! It’s not your fault he kills you! It’s not that you were wearing a dress or whatever” this is what now I think they need the most, and my country too if I’m being honest. So in my opinion, more than to see a +

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beautiful love story about forgiveness, I would like to see the courage of a woman to stand up on her own two feet, and leave, leave against all society, against your own family, against all economical limitations, cause that’s +

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what women would have to do right now if they were to leave the houses where they are being abused in. I don’t think that today we need to see big love stories, but that, that we most need is to fight against a violence that +

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lives in every corner of our societies, and make more and more people fight against it too. I hope this story ends up with Zeynep forgiving a redeemed Mehdi but going her way, cause I would like every women out there who is +

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seeing this serie and her husband, boyfriend, father, brother, uncle, etc, abuses her to know that they can do it, they can leave, to not wait for a change that might not happen,

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before they are the next girl who shows up in the screen with the phrase Found Dead written above her face.

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There’s one thing I would like to add, something that many people have answered me and that I completely agree with. The power a redemption could have as a message to men to show them there’s a different way, a way that would make them better & happier #DoğduğunEvKaderindir