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I hate it when people say "You& #39;ve got to leave your comfort zone" Because what they perceive as my comfort zone and what I perceive as my comfort zone are two very different things.
When they say that, they want me to do something big and social. They usually mean things like /1
When they say that, they want me to do something big and social. They usually mean things like /1
Going to a party or another thing with lots of people. They perceive that as important. They don& #39;t understand that doing this is so far out of my comfort zone on most days it is actually harmful. It means I have to spend more spoons than I have, more energy on things that /2
don& #39;t give me anything back. No energy. No pleasant feeling afterwards. It& #39;ll leave me drained.
They say it& #39;ll get better if you do it enough. But it won& #39;t. I& #39;ll spend more than I have until I am so badly in dept that I& #39;ll burn out and go nowhere for months. /3
They say it& #39;ll get better if you do it enough. But it won& #39;t. I& #39;ll spend more than I have until I am so badly in dept that I& #39;ll burn out and go nowhere for months. /3
They don& #39;t understand that going to the supermarket or taking a different route with the car is already out of my comfort zone. They don& #39;t understand that making a phonecall is already out of my comfort zone. They don& #39;t understand that I don& #39;t get desensitized to most noises /4
They also don& #39;t seem to grasp the concept that every person has a different comfort zone. Just as every person is different, their comfort zone is different and to push them out of it before they are ready is more harmful than not. /5
However, helping people leave their comfort zone is very important. I went on a trip once with my grandma. It would have been greatly out of my comfort zone if I had been forced to do it, but I was asked, I could think about it and I could do it at my own pace. It was very /6
draining but it helped me out a lot in my life. In contrast to that I didn& #39;t go on any trips in school because I wasn& #39;t ready and refused outright. My family supported me in that. /7
Comfort zones are safe. Safe isn& #39;t bad. Safe is very important to regain energy. It is very important for people who are constantly anxious or afraid. It is very for #ActuallyAutistic #AllAutistics people who are constantly suffering from having their senses bombarded. /8
Taking that away will lead to nothing. Just because something is easy for you doesn& #39;t mean it& #39;s easy for everybody else.
Every parent knows how to ride a bike and won& #39;t ridicule their child for not knowing. It& #39;s easy for them but not for someone who has never sat on a bike. /9
Every parent knows how to ride a bike and won& #39;t ridicule their child for not knowing. It& #39;s easy for them but not for someone who has never sat on a bike. /9
Meaning: Let& #39;s be nice and understanding with each other. Let& #39;s support staying in the comfort zone for as long as a person need. They& #39;ll know when it is time to leave.
I wanted to make this thread for ages. Glad I finally managed to do so and to pinpoint why people saying it always makes me bristle so much.
