Here's the thing.

The age of legal consent is the only barrier to marrying a woman. Every other societal construct was created by groups/individuals who feel they are at the wrong side of the marraige/relationship pool.

Once she's able to legally consent, she's fair game.

I believe age of consent should be at 21 years old.

The human offspring is the only offspring that depends on its parents for 18-21 years because that's the time that's believed to program the intelligence of the average human.

After that age, they are considered mentally

empowered enough to make their own decisions.

Which is why I think we should take the pessimistic view on age of consent and set it at 21 because by then most humans are a finished product mentally speaking.

Although as we grow through life we encounter teachable moments

and situations that mentally fortify us against further situations in the future.

But it's impossible to wait until we have learnt all there's to learn before we make any serious commitment relationship/marraige-wise simply because we never stop learning. Couples in their 50s

still go for marraige counseling because you never know it all. So saying a girl has to wait until she has enough experience to make a relationship commitment otherwise she's a sitting duck waiting to be taken advantage of is foolishness because we simply never stop learning.

And who defines when each person has learnt enough to make better decisions?

Don't women in their 30s make bad decisions in relationships? Are they impervious to men who want to take advantage of them?

In my opinion I think those who are desperate for marraige

are the demography for men who are only interested in taking advantage of women.

People knowing better doesn't always translate into them doing better.

They force themselves to see only what they want to see and that's how we end up getting books like "On Becoming" a must tell.

So who says/ who can define exactly when each woman has learnt enough to not allow themselves be taken advantage of by men who want to do so?

Don't women in their 40s and 50s even those who have been in other marraiges before get taken advantage of? Some will argue they are

even easier to take advantage of than the 21 years old who has all her options open.

You can only get away with taking advantage of such for a while because she'll meet better men and usually they leave you for someone who they feel is better.

So if you're only interested

in taking advantage of women, why not go for those whose dating pool is limited and will do almost anything to find a man.

Common sense says they are a easier target right?

So this thing we do when we deny young women of their agency and condemn them to infantilism has to stop.

I have met women in their 20s who are very mature and mental wrecks who are in their 30s.

We cannot play fast and loose with age that a woman is seen to be able to choose what's right for her relationship wise.

The only age that matters is the age of consent which must be

tied to the age that's its been scientifically proven that by then, human minds are fully programmed.

There are outliers everywhere but we do not teach people that people have 11 toes even though some people do.

Also, I think it's a bad way to look at the world, this thing

where you see men who go for younger women as only interested in exploiting them. Why are they suspect by default? I thinks its a very bad way to look at men; as predators.

Why isn't it possible to view them as also people who are interested in the uplifting of their fellow

species and would do their best to ensure whoever they are with is mentally, physically, emotionally and materially cared for.

We know there are men like that, men who marry women with a Bsc and now their wives have PhDs even though they married these women young.

Men whose wives owned a small shop and now they own a mall/supermarket even though they married these women young.

Why do you only see men as people who are only interested in taking advantage of women?

It's a bad way to see the world and probably why you are jealous of

younger women who have all their options.

But you cannot shame people into not liking what they like as long as they are not committing any crimes.

All na twitter standard.

We mueveee......