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People ask me this a lot, so for what it& #39;s worth: I don& #39;t think we should misgender cis people either.
Even to "show them how it feels" as a response to them intentionally misgendering us.
It will never hurt them the same way it hurts us & it just fuels their fire.
Even to "show them how it feels" as a response to them intentionally misgendering us.
It will never hurt them the same way it hurts us & it just fuels their fire.
Then it changes the topic from "misgendering people is bad" to "see, they& #39;re all hypocrites with double standards!"
I just don& #39;t think it achieves anything affective.
Also, I hold a personal standard of myself that I respect people& #39;s gender identities b/c I want mine respected.
I just don& #39;t think it achieves anything affective.
Also, I hold a personal standard of myself that I respect people& #39;s gender identities b/c I want mine respected.
Like, I& #39;m not going to go out of my way to ask a trans person to stop misgendering a cis person like I would if the opposite were happening, because, again - it doesn& #39;t hurt them the way it hurts us. I& #39;m not going to police how people deal with their own oppression.
But it& #39;s not something I personally will take part in, and if you& #39;re looking for my opinion - I don& #39;t think it& #39;s a beneficial response to transphobia.
Also, respecting people& #39;s gender identities is a basic act of respect for their humanity. Even if those identities are not ones they face oppression for. No, it& #39;s not the same and it doesn& #39;t hurt them in the same way... but it& #39;s basic respect for their existence.
That matters to me.
If I& #39;m upset with someone, it& #39;s because they did something harmful and so I want to focus on the harmful action of concern... I want to address that.
I don& #39;t find it helpful to ever disrespect people& #39;s existence.
If I& #39;m upset with someone, it& #39;s because they did something harmful and so I want to focus on the harmful action of concern... I want to address that.
I don& #39;t find it helpful to ever disrespect people& #39;s existence.
