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At the start of 2020, I was trapped in an abusive relationship.
When COVID-19 forced lockdowns, I was one of the people who experienced more violence because of forced proximity to my abuser.
It finally gave me the perspective I needed to leave. https://link.medium.com/Noxqz0BrGbb ">https://link.medium.com/Noxqz0BrG...
When COVID-19 forced lockdowns, I was one of the people who experienced more violence because of forced proximity to my abuser.
It finally gave me the perspective I needed to leave. https://link.medium.com/Noxqz0BrGbb ">https://link.medium.com/Noxqz0BrG...
I escaped with some minor physical scars & mental trauma. But I& #39;m out. I& #39;m safe, I haven& #39;t spoken to her in months.
Many haven& #39;t been so lucky. Intimate partner violence has surged during the COVID-19 pandemic & many are struggling to access resources. https://coronavirus.nautil.us/domestic-violence-statistics/">https://coronavirus.nautil.us/domestic-...
Many haven& #39;t been so lucky. Intimate partner violence has surged during the COVID-19 pandemic & many are struggling to access resources. https://coronavirus.nautil.us/domestic-violence-statistics/">https://coronavirus.nautil.us/domestic-...
I am incredibly thankful for the support of my family and friends- and I am privileged because I& #39;ve thus far been able to largely escape the disastrous impacts of COVID-19.
I& #39;m contributing today to @wscadv in honor of that - yet many are not so lucky. https://wscadv.org/donate/ ">https://wscadv.org/donate/&q...
I& #39;m contributing today to @wscadv in honor of that - yet many are not so lucky. https://wscadv.org/donate/ ">https://wscadv.org/donate/&q...
To get out, I had to make the decision to let her keep our puppy, because trying to hold onto him simply gave her another hold on me. I miss Peanut. He was a good dog.
I& #39;m lucky we didn& #39;t have a child, or many assets together. Yet even so, it wasn& #39;t the 1st time I tried to leave
I& #39;m lucky we didn& #39;t have a child, or many assets together. Yet even so, it wasn& #39;t the 1st time I tried to leave
It took me almost a year from the first time she hit me to leave & not come back.
It took several years since the emotional abuse became apparent.
Intimate partner violence is widespread:
-1 in 4 women experience it
-1 in 10 men
-1 in 2 non-binary people.
You are not alone.
It took several years since the emotional abuse became apparent.
Intimate partner violence is widespread:
-1 in 4 women experience it
-1 in 10 men
-1 in 2 non-binary people.
You are not alone.
If you& #39;re struggling, if COVID has been hard for you because you& #39;re stuck with your abuser, if you& #39;re afraid of spending the holidays alone with them- I am here to talk.
If you need help finding resources, or just want to talk to someone who won& #39;t judge- my DMs are open.
If you need help finding resources, or just want to talk to someone who won& #39;t judge- my DMs are open.
It can happen to anyone. I& #39;m 6& #39;1" I weight 220 lbs. I used to play high school football, I can bench my body weight.
And I was abused. It is not your fault.
Men, if you& #39;ve experienced abuse or not, I recommend watching @PhilosophyTube& #39;s vid on abuse. https://youtu.be/AeGEv0YVLtw ">https://youtu.be/AeGEv0YVL...
And I was abused. It is not your fault.
Men, if you& #39;ve experienced abuse or not, I recommend watching @PhilosophyTube& #39;s vid on abuse. https://youtu.be/AeGEv0YVLtw ">https://youtu.be/AeGEv0YVL...
(Thank you @alifwst for sharing it with me)
It meant a lot to me when I first watched it. It still means a lot to me today- it reminds me that I& #39;m not alone. That I can talk about it.
Often, Men don& #39;t talk about it. They tough it out. And this is highly, highly unhealthy.
It meant a lot to me when I first watched it. It still means a lot to me today- it reminds me that I& #39;m not alone. That I can talk about it.
Often, Men don& #39;t talk about it. They tough it out. And this is highly, highly unhealthy.
Writing this thread is hard. It& #39;s tough to think about. But it& #39;s important that people talk about IPV, and for me it& #39;s especially important to remind other men that they& #39;re not alone.
For about 7 months, I saw a therapist once a week. It took a lot of work to start to untangle.
For about 7 months, I saw a therapist once a week. It took a lot of work to start to untangle.
Now, I& #39;m going to therapy less often- but I encourage anyone who has experienced IPV and hasn& #39;t talked to a professional to do so. Men, don& #39;t think that you should tough it out- get a professional on your team.
I love you all. You can do this.
I love you all. You can do this.
I& #39;m still working through some of the trauma. I probably will be for a long time.
But life is getting better, even in the middle of a pandemic. I haven& #39;t felt this creative in years. I& #39;m writing more. I& #39;m safer. I& #39;m happier.
You deserve to feel the same.
DMs are open.
But life is getting better, even in the middle of a pandemic. I haven& #39;t felt this creative in years. I& #39;m writing more. I& #39;m safer. I& #39;m happier.
You deserve to feel the same.
DMs are open.
Thank you to @NolanFawthrop & @Abel4Seattle for being there for me during this process, talking to me and supporting me.
I appreciate you both more than words can convey.
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I appreciate you both more than words can convey.
