Read on Twitter
This trend going around of "ew gay people are gross ha ha I can say that & #39;cause I& #39;m LGBT so it& #39;s not insensitive or hateful at all" is starting to leak into IRL spaces and now, queer strangers think it& #39;s appropriate to say homophobic things to one another because "reclaiming".
People are comparing it to black Americans using the n-word.
This is so wrong, and so insulting to black Americans and what they& #39;re working towards when reclaiming slurs and denying access to them by oppressive people.
This is so wrong, and so insulting to black Americans and what they& #39;re working towards when reclaiming slurs and denying access to them by oppressive people.
Black Americans are not reclaiming RACISM when they use the n-word to describe themselves or others in their communities. They are reclaiming a single slur, designed by their oppressors to describe their skin, in a way that is celebratory and respectful towards that skin.
There is no respect in shouting homophobic/transphobic things at strangers who are openly LGBT. This is you projecting your internalized homo/transphobia onto other people, and expecting them to carry this weight with/for you. And it& #39;s not respectful at all.
To know that there are LGBTQ+ people out there proudly wearing their flags in their day to day life makes me happy. I have no impulse to say any of the self-loathing or degrading things I joke about with my LGBTQ+ friends who know and understand the struggles I go through.
Having internalized homo/transphobia doesn& #39;t make you a Bad LGBTQ+ Person; you& #39;re allowed to make these kinds of jokes around people who consent to hearing them. But strangers don& #39;t know you or your struggle, and they definitely don& #39;t know how much you respect theirs.
This thread is definitely about the post that& #39;s like "I forgot homophobia was wrong"
There are people alive today who can never forget how wrong homophobia is, because they& #39;ve lived through hate crimes. You seriously want to risk triggering someone& #39;s trauma by making a ""joke""?
There are people alive today who can never forget how wrong homophobia is, because they& #39;ve lived through hate crimes. You seriously want to risk triggering someone& #39;s trauma by making a ""joke""?
Again, there is a time and a place for triggering ideas. I, a CSA survivor who uses underage NSFW fiction to cope with that trauma, knows better than anyone that sometimes, we indulge in our triggers because it makes them hurt less.
But we don& #39;t do this IN ACTUAL PUBLIC. We don& #39;t do this WITH COMPLETE STRANGERS. We MUST understand and respect the many boundaries of the other people we& #39;re involved with to ethically make these jokes or share these ideas.
So while you& #39;re not evil or homophobic/transphobic for wanting to make "ew gay people" jokes, as an LGBTQ+ person yourself - but you& #39;re still putting other people at risk of retraumatization by openly spreading your own traumas like that, with no context and no chance to consent.
Calling urself queer in public? Not putting anyone at risk, reclaiming a term meant to oppress u but now just describes u respectfully.
Calling someone gross for being openly LGBT? Puts them in a position to have to find out if you were being serious & if their life is in danger
Calling someone gross for being openly LGBT? Puts them in a position to have to find out if you were being serious & if their life is in danger
Do not be obtuse. You cannot ethically spread homo/transphobic rhetoric in public spaces with strangers no matter where you come from or how you identify.
This is so, so obvious and it& #39;s so sad that it has to be said. Sex Education is a human right we& #39;ve ALL been denied, huh?
This is so, so obvious and it& #39;s so sad that it has to be said. Sex Education is a human right we& #39;ve ALL been denied, huh?
Also, I don& #39;t need to explain that a nearby Homo/Transphobe would hear this rhetoric and either openly agree, maybe even add to the violence, or at the least, feel comforted knowing that their ideas are more accepted than the internet would have them believe.
Spreading bigoted rhetoric just makes bigots feel more comfortable. Downplaying the affects of bigotry, especially when you& #39;re not in the proper "I& #39;m a comedian on a stage/a writer for a story/a person being fictional right now" context, just makes bigotry more acceptable.
You should be looking towards terms and ideas you genuinely relate to, if you& #39;re trying to reclaim oppressive terms or ideas. If you genuinely relate to "gay people are gross" and you& #39;re LGBT, that& #39;s YOUR internalized homo/transphobia, and it& #39;s wrong to project it onto strangers.
