I've been following this debate for a bit and I gotta say, most people need a crash course in the concept of genuine love.

You lucky guys and gals, I'm bored so I'm gonna give you one.

Love is genuine care and desire for the wellbeing of another. https://twitter.com/clairlemon/status/1330982315334406144

In every relationship, the way this plays out is going to be different. In a marriage of 2 loving equals this is going to include a care for each other's wellbeing in most aspects of life: economic, emotional, and yes, sexual.

No one person in a relationship gets to unilaterally

decide what their sex life is to be, nor in a loving marriage, would either *want* to. If you genuinely care for your spouse you would not make demands the other finds unbearable nor would you leave the other to, in Biblical terms, burn themselves in their lust.

I have some

experience in this arena because I have been happily married for 15 years, had 3 kids and all that entails.

In all areas of life, my husband and I serve each other, each respecting and caring for one another, as neither of us desires the other suffer but desire their happiness.

If your spouse is refusing you sex for long periods of time and is callous to your suffering, your spouse *does not love you*.

If your spouse is demanding sex at a frequency or in a style that hurts or makes you uncomfortable, your spouse *does not love you.*

If you see

yourself in those previous sentences, you need to get counseling to find your way back into love or out of the relationship.