So, this might be timely to somebody, but a thing to remember about grief is that feelings arrive on their own schedule and logic.

If your first response to hearing about death or a loss is practical/pragmatic, that doesn't mean something is wrong with you.

If your first thought to bad news about a family member or loved one is about how it affects you or what it will mean for you... this is pretty normal. The enormity of loss, the reality of it, can be hard to process, and meanwhile your brain will turn to practical matters.

Dealing with logistics and immediate necessities and things within your control can be a way to cope with the things that are too big to comprehend and way outside the scope of what you can control. And you might be glad you thought of them later, when the feelings catch up.

Every human brain is different and every situation is different, so you might also crumble with awareness of the awful finality of it all immediately and be useless for figuring out how to proceed or what it means for you in practical terms.

There's no wrong way to be.

When dealing with the impending loss of my mother, I described grief as a ninja assassin: it can hide anywhere and sneak up on you at any time. Rather than coming at you head-on, it might come from an unexpected angle.

Orrrr it might decide to rush headlong at you across an empty room while screaming a battle cry. Metaphorically.

My point is that grief, like any emotional process, follows its own schedule. It is not susceptible to our logic and not bound to follow any tidy narratives we may have absorbed or constructed in our heads.