One of the smaller cultural differences that I see cause conflicts is the question of whether possessions have value and should be sold, or whether they represent a sunk cost.
I grew up in a world of hand me down clothes and gifted everything. You COULD sell your shit, but unless it was uniquely valuable, you wouldn't get enough for a replacement.
So this meant that if someone needed something you no longer wanted, needed, or used, you would generally just give it to them.
I'm more hybrid these days--I will sell things that are particularly valuable or whatever--but for the most part, my stuff is stuff, not money waiting to happen.
And this is where the conflict can come in. Because when I have something I no longer need/want, I'm likely to just hand it to someone who does.
This has occasionally led to "why are you giving me this inappropriately valuable thing?", when from the way I think about things, I didn't.
I just gave my friend a gift. The money was spent when I gave myself a gift. The money is not transitive.
The most valuable gift I've given this year was to a reader I don't know, whose mother wrote asking me to draw her a picture. It cost four hours of my time.
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