We’re better off without people who use their diagnoses to justify a narcissistic tirade

The left commends your absence

I’ve been targeted by people with BPD for being someone who cares my whole life and I can safely say that there is such a thing as enabling them.

Their self destruction is not your fault or responsibility. Your compassion is not an excuse for them to hurt you.

Honestly isolation isn’t going to be great for them either, but if the clause is “I’ll hurt myself if I can’t have someone nearby to hurt” then that is a reason to step back and just hope for the best

I know “hurting” isn’t what people with BPD see themselves doing, but—

But if the ultimate result is that one can’t help with them without being vulnerable to attack then its no less violent.

As someone who internalizes stress and pain by default, I really think the mentality of a person with BPD is that they don’t deserve to feel internalized pain

This is why I think it’s enabling them to constantly provide a new punching bag. Reaching out is one thing—

But needing to see someone else suffer to feel better about yourself is just a bully mentality. Whom I get that there are other forces at play, I think the most critical variable is whether they can ever feel guilt or empathy in that moment

It seems like narcissism is a stress—

Response to them and the natural tendency for people to give them space is the sort of a justification a narcissist would need to see themselves as the prime victim.

Ultimately it seems to become a learnt behaviour of exploiting the desire of those around them to help—

As a coping strategy. It’s no mystery that some people punch down to feel better about themselves, and I worry that avoiding an acknowledgement of this just because it’s associated to diagnosis is putting the people they target in danger and only enabling their violent behaviors.

I want to finish by stating with total conviction that I realize that this is just me conflating my personal (perhaps narcissism driven) experiences and they do not actually say anything about what is in the head or heart of a person with BPD

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But I have to fend for myself as friends watched someone with BPD harass and bully me for weeks after I came out as trans and they expected a person with complex ptsd, aspergers, and schizotypal disorder to just be okay with it because that person has BPD, despite losing friends