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A realization of mine: Most of my life, I’ve been told I’m aggressive. I never thought I was. I just thought I was assertive and that ppl weren’t used to a young black assertive person right? No.
Moo tells me all the time how aggressive I come off, and of course by human nature, my response is to deny that right?
But sitting up tonight and really thinking about it on a deeper level, I totally see where he’s coming from and not gonna lie I feel bad. This is a prime example of intention vs reality and often the two can get messed up.
Just because I don’t think I’m aggressive doesn’t mean that’s not how I came at him and to deny it is to invalidate his feelings: something I never wanna do. And just because he’s voicing that don’t mean he’s attacking me either.
It means he’s telling me I’m doing something or here’s a pattern that I’m noticing and I don’t like it. And as a person who wants to make sure I’m putting my best foot forward, I have to hear to understand, not hear to react. There’s a big difference.
Moral of the story (for me): Everything ain’t a shot at you. Listen to understand and solve the issue. You never want your partner to feel like your gonna shoot them for expressing a concern... not my moo. That’s moo. I love moo
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