Thread by @mizshellytee, (whatever the hell a "romantic relationship" is or is supposed to be)https://twitter.com/dashaunlh/status/1330669183340834818 [...]

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mizshellytee

(whatever the hell a "romantic relationship" is or is supposed to be) https://twitter.com/dashaunlh/status/1330669183340834818

https://twitter.com/dashaunlh/status/1330669183340834818

I'm on the aromantic spectrum (aro-spec). One could argue that I'm closer to some form of quoiromantic in that I can't distinguish a difference between platonic and "romantic" love. https://www.aromanticism.org/en/news-feed/quoi-is-what

AUREA - Quoi is what?

Sometimes aro-spec, sometimes not: quoiromantic is a identity term that seems to have been misunderstood. What is quoi and why it is more relevant to our community than you think.

https://www.aromanticism.org/en/news-feed/quoi-is-what

I tend to use "romantic" in quotes or with sarcasm tildes on either side for that reason, not to mention what passes for "romantic" & "romance" in Western culture especially is pretty fckng gross.

(discussion of harassment, stalking, murder, abuse) https://wearyourvoicemag.com/its-not-romance-its-abuse/

Our Ideas of Romance Are Abusive

We are not allowed to hold someone emotionally hostage until they give us what we want, forcing them to swallow their own feelings, desires, and needs in order to satisfy our own. That’s not romance....

https://wearyourvoicemag.com/its-not-romance-its-abuse/

Amatonormativity ruined me. I performed it for decades. Amatonormativity has ruined loads of people.

"Romance" is definitely not necessary. https://wearyourvoicemag.com/romance-not-universal-necessary/

Romance is Not Universal, Nor is it Necessary.

As sexist and misogynistic as it is heteronormative, this inordinate value placed on romance and marriage is consistently used to devalue single and unmarried women, painting us as inherently...

https://wearyourvoicemag.com/romance-not-universal-necessary/

And I go back to this piece by Caleb Luna. I would be considered someone who is historically cared for and invested in (cis, white, abled, at an acceptable size), but their piece still resonates. A LOT.

(suicide mention) https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/romantic-love-is-killing-us/

Romantic Love is Killing Us: Who Takes Care of Us When We Are Single?

I am sick of reminding them of the simple fact that who we choose to love and, by extension, invest in is political.

https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/romantic-love-is-killing-us/

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