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why allsos is harmful, a thread on how a sex/relationship obsessed tl can be harmful to others who have trauma, find sex uncomfortable, or are in minorities that lack sexual/romantic attraction from an aro/ace
so apart from the obvious issues within allsos and with all the toxicity and controversial role play scenarios people have embedded in their stories. i want to talk about how it mirrors a hypersexualised society and how it pushes the ideals that sex is a need and not a want and +
how it does the same with romantic relationships. a lot of people don’t realise this but for those who are uncomfortable with sex, are asexual, aromantic, abstaining or are celibate its extremely harmful. allsos pushes a narrative that you need sex to have a healthy relationship+
as an asexual, we often get called catfishes and will most likely have our partners leave us no matter how healthy a relationship is. yes, i did leave allsos but thought this was important to tweet here and not on my main as i want to keep these seperate. my main was originally +
an allsos account and i didn’t want to unfollow a load of people because that’s long and i felt bad. i have 78 accounts muted to try to get sexual concepts off my timeline and when i was fully in allsos would have to mute new words everyday. posting concepts in of itself is fine+
i’m not saying you aren’t allowed to have sex and be horny. what i’m saying is you have to think about other people and how it could affect those. in my own personal experience i joined because i wasn’t out to anyone as asexual and i wanted to fit in because i wanted to feel as +
if i was normal for once. i could fake everything, sexual attraction, sexual desire. as allsos got bigger and progressed it became a lot more sex focused. it used to be innocent and a safe place for everyone, making allsos sex focused meant it wasn’t a safe place for me anymore +
everyone having relationships and constantly making it like being single was a bad thing and they needed/had to have a relationship because they were going mad meant allsos wasn’t a safe place for me anymore. personally, it made me feel isolated and it made me feel like a freak +
and i joined so i could feel normal. i’d have people saying how hands were so hot all over my tl and i’d look at it and want to cry because i didn’t feel the same. everytime someone said someone else was hot, again all over the tl, it’d make me question everything and it isn’t +
just a problem in allsos. allsos represents society in of itself. western (in particular) is sex obssessed and pushes the idea that you have to be in a relationship to be happy. that sex is a need and not a want or desire. that anyone who doesn’t feel like that is a freak. and +
allsos does the same thing subconsciously. whether you want to admit it or not, it does. again, i’m not saying to stop making everything sexual if that’s really what yous all want to do. i’m dipping for good after i finish this thread anyways, i just wanted to come back and say +
what i also want to say is that there is a LOT of toxic stuff in allsos, from people being toxic to role play storylines. a lot needs to be fixed and a lot has stopped and this isn’t taking away from those issues. it’s highlighting one that is silently problematic and is current+
irl as well, and people coming into my dms to actually role play sex would make me uncomfortable because i felt as if it was more serious than when i did sexual bs on the tl. i’m fine with the teasing but not the act, this thread is to be educational, if you treat this as some +
sort of drama or that i’m problematic i’m probs gonna assume you’re ignorant and need to educate yourself more. again, i’m NOT saying to stop role playing sex and relationships and post about it on the tl. i’m asking you to think what always gets the most likes and retweets. i’m+
asking you to think about what accounts get the most attention and what the timeline is always focused on. i’m asking you to recognise how that could potentially trigger others and alienate a minority if they aren’t sex-favourable or sex-indifferent. i’m asking you to educate +
yourselves on why the timeline was harmful to me as aro/ace person and why it ruined my safe space and i had to mute so many accounts and words that my timeline was dead the whole time. adding the cws and tws was good but when the wide majority don’t do it it’s not helpful at all
also i know no ones gonna listen to this but if everyone’s saying how toxic allsos is you have to represent everyone who was/is in allsos and why it was toxic to them, it’s never going to be perfect but this was a massive issue for me and it honestly messed me up to the point+
where i was beginning to resent my asexuality and i had to leave for good. i did some bs thread when i left but i decided it was best to make a new account so i can leave it up and just log out once people who might want to ask questions have (in the tiny chance people see this)+
and realise how alienating and upsetting it was that me, while i am sex-indifferent i mainly find the whole thing rather uncomfortable to talk about and see everywhere, could only get interaction when i tweeted about how i wanted to fuck someone. and how i’ve realised that’s a +
very common trend in allsos and it didnt sur right with me and it still doesn’t. thank you for coming to my ted talk and if you want to cancel me and call me toxic for this go ahead but for anything where i’ve states it was because of my sexual/romantic identity if you’re allo +
