1. I’m so tired of people talking about how they hate “sides” of the fandom. The negativity comes from ALL OVER. Lack of self awareness and people on all “sides” unwilling to have open and honest conversations with each other, or just unwillingness to hear someone out because it

2. makes them uncomfortable. We’ve all experienced it, we’ve all done it. And blaming others and saying “oh they’re just salty and sad and jealous” doesn’t fix anything or make it any better. People preaching “be kind” all the time and being anything but that... know better, do

3. better, be better. Stop monopolizing parts of the fandom. Everyone should be able to participate however they want without feeling they aren’t welcome (which is happening), or they can’t because “someone else does that”. Take a look in the mirror today and ask yourself how you

4. can do better. When someone comes to you privately with a concern or a feeling, or you ASK them for an opinion, take them seriously, honor their feelings, respect them, and do some reflecting. Don’t just brush it off, get defensive and ignore them. How is that going

5. to help anyone? It’s not. I know I haven’t been the best at this always, but I’ve really been working on it. It’s hard to be honest and open with people, and when you are and then you get tossed away or your feelings are dismissed as something else entirely it doesn’t feel goo

6. good and leaves a mark. So maybe just take some time to think today. This fandom has a really long history of bullying and awful things that I won’t speak to because I’ve only been here for a year and a half, but I know a lot of people have been hurt by people here. Have been

7. labeled and put into a group, a “side” (), or completely bullied out of the fandom and off of twitter.

We’re all humans with thoughts and opinions, feelings, and emotions. But if we don’t take the time to understand each other and reflect on our own actions then what’s the

point?

Anyway. I know this will probably fall on deaf ears and I’ll probably get a lot of shit for it, but I’ve been sitting on these thoughts all day. So- there it is.