Good morning, mutual pursuit is not a thing https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="♥️" title="Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Herz">

When you approach someone because YOU like them you need to understand that they do not like you. They do not even know you, to like you. Your job is to show them why they should like you. Y’all didn’t approach each other, babe

Them responding favorably to your pursuit (texting you first, opening up more, etc) means that you are doing a good job at showing them why you are a good catch not that the pursuit is done

If you have not gotten them clearly the pursuit is not over. That doesn’t even make sense

I literally don’t care if you like your friend and they know you. You are now trying to pursue a romantic relationship (something y’all don’t have) and have to win them over on that front

Now they need to see that you’re a good partner and compatible, not just cool to hang with

I think the problem is y’all want instant gratification when we should be taking time choosing romantic partners. You want the person you’re interested in to give you an answer right now when the whole interaction is a test on compatibility.

And sidebar the pursuit is never done when you actually want someone - let’s talk about that

I hate how y’all want to act one way during pursuit and then show less energy and excitement now that you’ve gotten the person

That’s a one way ticket to Blocked City! Just be yourself

Y’all always want to argue about this when if you actually liked the person to begin with, this wouldn’t even be a conversation. You would just constantly be trying to show them a good time. The problem is that y’all be talking to people y’all don’t like