(quick thread)
a good way to approach Jupiter & Venus without gendering them when looking at potential qualities of spouse in a chart is to look at Jupiter like a provider, & Venus, like a “provided for”.

depending of how one wants to define the dynamic in their ideal couple,

if following a “provider x provider for” dynamic outside of gender norms,

Jupiter =
-how you provide
-how you will be provided for

Venus =
-how you want to be provided for
-the type of person you provide for/want to provide for

relationships that do not follow gender norms can perfectly have that provided x provided for dynamic with “static roles”, one providing & one receiving if that’s what is preferred.

within a relationship in which people “alternate”, it just lets you know—

how the rotation will be, how you tend to give/provide & how you want to receive & will be provided for in return.

i hope this helps!