"everyone should have their pronouns in their email signature!!" my pronouns inherently out me, i have two public-facing jobs dealing with a lot of conservative men, and outside of that i email people almost exclusively to organise trademe purchases/etc
obviously i& #39;m pretending to be a cis woman for sw purposes. but i& #39;m also, specifically, /pretending to be a cis woman who doesn& #39;t put she/her in her signature/. at my customer service job i need to stay as anonymous as humanly possible to avoid harassment, too
tbh this also applies irl for many of us. when playing magic in public, for example, i don& #39;t actually want anyone to correct my opponent on my pronouns. i am there to play a game, and every trans person& #39;s mileage varies. correcting them means they& #39;re gonna resent /me/ not you
the very short version of this is: ask your local trans person what they actually want before being an ally. this brought to you by this disaster i just saw on reddit, probably the peak "cis ally who doesn& #39;t listen" story ever https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/jy789b/aita_for_offending_someone_who_assumed_i_was_trans/">https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheA...