A friend cheated

“Im so sorry. The other woman was just so beautiful”

“You aren’t sorry” I told him

Remorse is a blended emotion

The only way to feel it is to blend 2 emotions together: sadness + disgust

If you aren’t disgusted w/ yourself

You aren’t sorry

You are just sad

I teach communication. I tell students all the time: use language appropriately

Don’t say you are sorry when you are really just sad

Don’t say someone is your friend who is toxic to you

Don’t say you “love” someone you don’t feel safe with

Words matter

I’d rather someone sit and think about why they AREN’T sorry for what they’ve done to hurt me

Than just say words

There is no way they mean