A pattern you don't want to get hooked on is attraction to someone's withdrawal. Withdrawal of energy, effort and attention tends to leave people feeling anxious and very stirred up emotionally, this causes them to pursue and imitates feelings of attachment.

This simple technique is used to make you reactionary and to gain control. Over time, the more you do this, the more passionate you'll become about turbulence. You'll be put off by consistency and stability because it won't inspire that whirlwind in you.

Retrain yourself to be attracted to action, affection and evidence of love. Not to be excited by the push-pull dynamic that means you're getting crumbs of effort in small doses but keeps you in a stimulating anticipation.

It is popularly known that withdrawal of affection is useful to get people hooked on you, that's why you get people telling you that they don't want to over-compliment you so you don't get too big-headed and sayings like "treat them mean, keep them keen". Don't fall for it.