Could you imagine asking a girl who was raped to protect the identity of her rapist, or to console him once it came out that he did it?

Guessing the thought alone feels so obviously inhumane.

That's because it is.

Apply that logic to other forms of harm and trauma, please.

And, while you're at it, consider what you'd say about whomever would support and advocate for the victim...

And apply that to other forms of trauma, too.

Why the protection of perpetrators of intentional harm is so important is beyond me.

Could you imagine a victim being told, "Let's wait until he's capable of understanding the harm he caused you to address it" ?

Again, that probably seems so obviously unreasonable and, yet, for other forms of trauma...