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After months of facing the shit he did to me, I think it’s finally time for me to talk about Ben, @Benredemption. This will be in the form of a story, and probably jump back and forth chronologically, but I will do my best. TWs on individual tweets. My hands are shaking.
I met Ben pretty quickly after I joined this fandom here at the beginning of the year. We talked about movies and interests, pretty normal things. He presents himself as a normal guy on the tl. This is not the case. He is abusive, including sexually, and emotionally manipulative.
When I met him, I was practically single but at the end of a messy longterm relationship. Out of fear of harassment from men (lmao ironic), I would still act like he and I were fully together. At our best, my bf at the time and I were good friends. We’d occasionally still hang
out. After Ben began to be open to me about the fact that he was sexually attracted to me, I expressed that I did not want a relationship or anything remotely serious with him at all. That did not prevent him from saying things like this, then backtracking.
TW assault???
TW assault???
Pretty fucking early on as well he pulled some intense shit where he triggered me and also tried to make me feel responsible for his safety. He implied he was “gonna go” etc after I said I couldn’t call because I was going to hang out with my ex. I spammed him with calls, afraid
for his safety and worried, and then left messages when he wouldn’t respond. He comes back a few minutes grumbling at me, pretending he didn’t know what he just did, and then speaking explicitly about self harm and suicide methods. 
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being the dangerously empathetic person that I am with the worst people, I accepted his shit apology for the panic attack he gave me and tried to move on. Stuff only got worse. As I stupidly confided to him that I had sexual trauma since we were having the
conversation, he pretended that he was being courteous by “letting me have control of the situation” and acting out CNC with me. He later said he would r*** me in the middle of nowhere where nobody could hear me. This is not okay. I did not ask for this from him. Ever.
He would pretty consistently discuss / casually bring up how he has been violent to people in his life. According to him, he also wanted to “get back” at an ex girlfriend he had. I would have reached out to her, but he never told me her name, probably because of that.
Some of the lighter stuff he said about her. As far as I know, she was just a bitch to him, BTW, and I wouldn’t even believe she was considering he’s a predatory weirdo and a liar.
Very few of my friends knew what was going on because I was scared that I would get blamed for everything just because I talked to him. I felt scared to drop him as well / cut him out / whatever because I didn’t know if somehow he’d hurt me. He obviously had given me reason to
think he would. I started letting my very close friends know. The breaking point was one day where he terrified me. The previous day, he had joked about buying airplane tickets to my state. The next day, he said he had done it and when I flipped out, he made me feel bad for
him spending money on it. This is someone who had already treated me like shit and literally talked about sexual violence towards me, among other things, yet would get mad if I asked about any basic personal info abt him. But he wanted us to meet. I was freaked out as fuck.
After a shit ton of more messages where he insisted he was actually serious and was making me feel bad, he says the first screenshot. He scared me and emotionally manipulated me.
I was done at this fucking point. Him emotionally manipulating me, being an absolute creep, just being gross when I was NOT comfortable with him like that. He’d do weird shit like ponder “what would happen if the racists won in knives out https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤔" title="Denkendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Denkendes Gesicht">” in our dms, or shit like this like?
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I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised then when he out of nowhere started talking about how he supports his father being a c*p and getting tons of financial + healthcare support for it. This is the guy that pretends to be a leftist on the tl, BTW. He’s a bootlicker when he’s
comfortable around somebody.
I don’t know if I’ve added all the screenshots I have here of him being a creep to me and shit, but this is generally what he did. He also approached my friends, acting like I blocked him out of nowhere, when he knew damn well he made my life hell. He later blocked me back.
Doing this is extremely difficult for me. I have been afraid of getting backlash, people not believing me, and/or being blamed for other people getting hurt because I was afraid of the first two (which has already happened). So to everyone reading this, I beg you to see reason
and understand that there is nothing I can gain from coming out about this and I have everything to lose. I suffer from C-PTSD from previous sexual abuse and domestic abuse and I have severe anxiety disorder. People harassing me online will just aggravate it.
Thank you if you
Thank you if you
read all of this. I implore you to block this man and cut him out of the fandom. Do NOT give these people a platform. He deserves to be cast aside and not have any way to hurt people ever again. Fuck abusers.
Oh, and one last thing. This obviously isn’t that serious compared to what I spoke about in the thread, but he actively steals and reposts content for clout both on here and his Reddits (u/HopeLivesInTheGalaxy and u/AdamDriverIsAwesome). Whenever the Asian reylos posted
the art book and news magazines for TROS, he immediately took pictures of that shit and reposted it on Reddit without news credit etc. It’s pretty exhausting considering people like our @/sleemo work their asses off to credit sources and get us the best news ASAP.
I’m not an artist or news page or anything, so I don’t know how offensive this is, but it just seems like he’s a seriously shitty clout farmer aside from being a predator.
Again, thanks for reading and for your time. I’ll add anything I can if I find anything else etc.
Again, thanks for reading and for your time. I’ll add anything I can if I find anything else etc.
