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A thread: Some like to compare Trump to an abuser. That having him as president is equivalent to being in an abusive relationship. That being out of it is a wave of relief. Y’all are right. And there’s 1/6
A phenomenon that comes with that. Us who are survivors of DV, who suffer with cPTSD, experience a certain kind of aftermath of an abusive relationship that can be consider an “at least” phenomenon. It’s a self depreciating process in which we compare the person who 2/6
Comes after our abuser better by comparison and fail to see their own inherent toxicity. “At least he doesn’t hit me”; “At least he doesn’t say blatantly vulgar things in press conferences”; “At least he doesn’t lie”; “At least he’s only gaslighting me instead of flat out 3/6
Being demeaning towards me.” This is not necessarily a good thing. This is an excellent way to get caught in a trap of complacency with people that are detrimental to our wellbeing. Just because Biden is not as blatant, not as vulgar, not as depreciating, does not 4/6
Mean that he has the best interest of vulnerable people in mind. It does not mean that women or femme presenting individuals will feel okay with him as a president. It doesn’t mean that other vulnerable community will. Our work does not stop until we get a president that is 5/6
someone that we actually WANT instead of a half-assed effort at being better than someone who has no desire to control how despicable they appear. 6/6
