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Less talk about forgiveness talk
More talk about accountability and what’s required in the work of sincere repentance
More talk about accountability and what’s required in the work of sincere repentance
In Judaism, you’re not required to forgive someone who hasn’t done sincere, meaningful work of repentance & repair. And then, it’s complicated at best. But the literature is clear that if the harm caused was irreparable, you’re never required to forgive, even if they repent.
Also, who can forgive is the person (or people) who were directly harmed.
But the dead cannot forgive.
And it is not our job to forgive on behalf of the dead. Like, we can’t, it doesn’t work that way.
But the dead cannot forgive.
And it is not our job to forgive on behalf of the dead. Like, we can’t, it doesn’t work that way.
Here are some basic threads on the work of repentance. https://twitter.com/theradr/status/1029032053088632833
And here’s some stuff on abusers and forgiveness. https://twitter.com/theradr/status/1305004405004042240
Oh, and I said this elsewhere tonight but I think it bears repeating: part of the work of repentance includes accepting the consequences for your behavior, whether they be interpersonal, social, professional, legal, etc.
(And yes, I’m writing a book on repentance work in our private lives, public square, institutions and country, including where forgiveness factors in, due from @BeaconPressBks in 2022.)
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