A few more thoughts on this, from observations in the field. The men who do it tend to have daddy issues. In presence of a powerful man, they either suck up ostentatiously or sulk passive-aggressively muttering but not loud enough that daddy can hear. With dissenting women/ https://twitter.com/Docstockk/status/1325120917303824389

on the other hand, their path is easy and unconflicted - ostracise and shame away! Weirdly these men always know who to target at least personal cost.

The women who do it tend to be different - they are often very serious girl guide types, though they don’t know it and often/

position themselves as queer or edgy. They are really concerned to get things right, and ricochet between ostentatiously moralising about others and collapsing with guilt and shame at their own flaws. Finding someone else to blame is a welcome relief from the fear/

the finger of shame will eventually point at them. They also tend to target women more than men.

Both have in common an absolute refusal to agree that sex could be a relevant causal factor in anything, though they refute this with every petition they sign or complaint they make