Men and many women believe successful women get work / opportunities by ‘sleeping around’. That’s how they are made. Women have learned to ignore the insecure, the bitchy and the toxicity and shine on anyway.

This attitude is why women speaking of sexual harassment - THE ABSENCE OF CONSENT, total ignorance of what COERCION means - are not believed and are told ‘you slept around for opportunities.’ puriyadha ஜடம்s. புரிஞ்சுக்க மாட்டேன்னு அடம். இது தான் ஆணாதிக்க சமுதாயம்.
That’s all.

It is not just men who are patriarchal. Women, too, are torch bearers of patriarchy. As has been made clear in the past, where women demand dowry, women slut shame other women, decide who an ‘உத்தமி’ is.

For most of us the battle of menstrual segregation starts at *home*.

.... With our own families - mothers, grandmothers and aunts and sisters.

So hearing some random third party man who knows nothing about us, calling us ‘impure’ ‘slut’ is normalized by women like me at least. That’s how society has made us, with unkindness.

The battle women have to survive, exist, be fed, educated, have dreams, an opinion, a voice, be seen, a career have financial independence, choose when / whom we marry, IF we want to marry, have or not have kids - is based on how lucky we were with parents we were born to.

Therefore women who have made it despite all odds, first battle other *women* who say - she showed her teeth / cleavage, slept around to become successful. Men slut-shaming women ain’t new. சூப் பாய்ஸ் அவ்வளவுதான். அவனுக்கு கடைக்காத பெண் எவனுக்கும் கடைக்கக்கூடாது.

Therefore - to Women who are called sluts by others - Stop getting shamed by that term. Don’t place yourself on some moral higher pedestal than a sex worker.
99% of the time, you got lucky that you weren’t trafficked by a family member. That’s all.