Sir & I had an interesting convo that sparked a desire for a thread about roles/stereotypes in D/s relationships.
We& #39;re both switches & just foraying into a true D/s relationship for the 1st time. There& #39;s SO MANY preconceived ideas out there re what a Dom/me, esp should be like -

& we& #39;ve both had to stretch around that to who we actually are.

Neither of us fit a typical stereotype. Not for Dom/me or sub, or switches. Neither of us are what you& #39;d expect from those roles. Hell, we don& #39;t always even call each other typical names.

I can be kitten as sub but also Kitten as Mistress sometimes!! Both of us have insecurity issues from past abuse. Both of us are finding ourselves now & allowing ourselves to just be US for the first time, maybe ever.

Here& #39;s the truth we& #39;re rapidly finding. Being us, exactly who we are, is a powerful thing. Fitting ourselves into stereotypes isn& #39;t only damaging to us but also doesn& #39;t allow us to be the full, amazing people we can be & that can only ever make a relationship the more dull for it

Being REAL is powerful. In fact, its a Dominance & also a submission to just be who you are, & just damn well enjoy it.

Doms/subs/switches - none of us are a monolith. We& #39;re all individuals who enjoy different things. Some of us are serious, some of us laugh our way through sex.

Some of us like to have/be a stern, unyielding or harsh Master/Mistress, some a more gentle, amused Master/Mistress. Some of us switches have prearranged D/s roles at specific times, some of us flow like river channels as the mood takes us.

We all also have conflicting needs, desires & feelings in ourselves. For example you may enjoy your subs discomfort but equally want to hold them & make sure they& #39;re OK.

All I& #39;m really trying to say is, be real to you, don& #39;t let anyone else define you. Kink is about setting yourself free to be who you are - and when you find that with someone, who likes that person, and you like the person THEY really are, it& #39;s fucking wonderful!!! https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😉" title="Zwinkerndes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Zwinkerndes Gesicht">