I was totally unprepared for handling an aging parent. Get in front of paperwork, accounts, power of attorney, medical guardianship, will (both yours & theirs - you could go first, leaving them a scam target), living & care situation, groceries, mental health (again: both of you)

Some guides (no I am not suggesting you give these orgs money, just pointing to guides that cover important things about aging parents)

https://moneywise.com/a/essential-documents-for-aging-parents

https://www.aplaceformom.com/planning-and-advice/articles/essential-documents

https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/basics/info-2017/your-loved-ones-next-move.html

https://assets.aarp.org/www.aarp.org_/articles/foundation/aa66r2_care.pdf

We've already been through a neighbor scam artist, inability to shop for food, off & on medical issues, becoming a shut-in leading into a pandemic, & other things I won't mention. It will be much easier for you to prevent or plan for than fix, trust me.

I know it sucks to think about. I left home when I was 17 because I couldn't deal with things even then, and time does not age their issues like wine. But you've got to stay ahead of it because they probably won't.

Sorry for being a huge downer in a week & month & year that are bad enough all on their own. Just had to get this all off my chest.

Indy is coming to help you soon :)

One final thing: hopefully you're lucky enough to have an incredible partner by your side like I did with Lisa. Finding your own support network - & being part of one for others - is absolutely crucial. The most important step of all

All of your replies remind me why I stay on this platform despite its problems. Thank you.